So my friend NikNak brought up a valid point. She made a statement to me about how her parents just can not seem to let her figure out who she is. It made me think about my parents and how they raised me. I often wish they had been harder on me, I know that sounds crazy, but it is true. I think I would have done better in school and better focused on a career at this point. Who knows? I for sure don't and am in no position to question my parents tactics. My point is that children, no matter the age, will disagree with the way their parents are doing things at some point or another. I may disagree with how my parents raised me when I was 5 but I don't think I was in the right frame of mind at that age to tell my parents how to raise me, they did not know I would grow up to be who I am, nor did I. I agree with what NikNak said, that she does not want to compromise growing as a person and finding out who she is just so her parents can approve of her now. Long story short she made some decisions that most teenagers would make in college. She went to a party here and a party there, but she works and pays her bills. So she decided to go party, so what, but at the same time she should be more careful. There are always two different sides to each altercation. Instead of everyone getting mad, why don't we just listen to the other person vent? Then we can switch roles and they listen while you vent. Seems like it could work right? Who knows, at this point I have pretty much accepted life for what it is and don't think it will change anytime soon.
hmm, glad to be the inspiration for this blog lol... and you know, i agree with you but when it comes down to it, things will not change for a very long time, if at all. you see no matter what, my parents are my parents of whom i was taught to respect and obey. i try to do both with few exceptions. i think that they both did an amazing job at raising me and helping me to be who i am. however, i think that now i am at a point in my life that i feel i should be given the credit for being who i want to be, not my parents. i think that everyone should do their best to make their mark on the world even if it seems completely trivial. and im working on that. all i ask now is that my parents change the way that they look at me. i am no longer the little girl that they used to know, but a young woman discovering herself and the world around her. so when they speak to me, as you could tell by our conversation earlier, i would like them to refrain from screaming and talking down to me. i think this topic is a never ending battle among parents and their children. if a child respects their parents, they will rarely if ever, stand up for themselves. and in many situations, if parents love their children they will be over baring at times and annoy the shit out of their kids. thats how it is, and how it will always be... but again, thank you for letting me vent to you the other day:) *Hugs*
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